“When a commitmentphobic meets a woman he’s attracted to, the intensity of his interest often seduces her into thinking that she has the upper hand in the relationship…Later, when she is already involved, his behavior may be so contradictory…

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/recovering-narcissist/2020/08/commitmentphobic-narcissists-seduction-withholding-and-love-triangles/